Cole C. 2/14/23 Cole C. 2/14/23

Taming jealousy

Everyone has insecurities in life. Some have insecurities with how they look, their financial stability, how they fit in social situations or even their inherent worth as a person. Even influencers and celebrities have their waterloo. Nobody is perfect and there will always be greater and lesser persons than yourself. I don’t believe you should ever compare yourself to others because it will make you vain and bitter about the things you lack in life.

Cole C. 1/2/23 Cole C. 1/2/23

A Fresh New Start

The New Year always evokes such a feeling of victory and triumph over life and I think that is quite beautiful. As the New Years rings in, take the moment to be grateful. Take it as a moment to pause and reflect on the year and everything you not only survived but also accomplished.

Cole C. 12/12/22 Cole C. 12/12/22

The Holiday Blues

Christmas for me has always been a festive season. You see loved ones, friends and have gatherings and get togethers with the people you love. However, I think it’s also important to remember Christmas isn’t always a festive or happy season for all. Some people have loved ones who passed away and Christmas is a painful reminder of that loss. Others don’t have a happy home life or come from abusive or neglectful parents and some don’t look forward to Christmas

Cole C. 11/5/22 Cole C. 11/5/22

Shadow Work

Shadow work is a psychological technique wherein we increase our awareness of our “shadow” and reintegrate it into our self. The shadow according to Carl Jung is the part of the self that we have repressed or exiled. The shadow could be a multitude of things such as our feelings of unworthiness, our shame for our sexuality, our abandonment trauma, or feelings deemed wrong by society like anger, jealousy, fear and sadness.

Cole C. 10/29/22 Cole C. 10/29/22

Transforming Anger

Anger is one of those emotions that is treated as “bad” in society. Along with grief, sadness, and hopelessness, I believe we are not properly taught how to manage these emotions that are deemed “negative or toxic”. Only happiness is deemed appropriate especially on social media, which can be deemed as more harmful as our other emotions tend to become bottled up and isolated.

Cole C. 9/13/22 Cole C. 9/13/22

The Power of Positive Thinking

Turning your negative situation around is extremely dependent on your ability to see the good or positive in every situation. This is where resilience comes in. The lessons you learn during your painful and dark times are valuable. As I said pain is wonderful teacher as you progress into life.

Cole C. 8/5/22 Cole C. 8/5/22

Having the Courage to be Disliked

As a woman, I believe women are at a very young age conditioned to please others and to be submissive. We are taught to be quiet, to submit to men in authority, to follow the rules and that to be liked at all costs. This people pleasing mechanism is deeply ingrained in most women’s subconscious the same way we are also taught to believe our sense of self worth is attached to being in a relationship and being desired by men. It takes a lot of unlearning to realize you don’t need to conform to patriarchal standards of how to live your life.

Cole C. 7/12/22 Cole C. 7/12/22

Walking Away from What No Longer Serves You

Your happiness and sense of peace is your responsibility. You are the captain of your fate and the master of your ship. A large part of being accountable for your happiness also includes saying no or saying goodbye to people or energy vampires that drain you, take advantage of you, manipulate you or disrespect you. Learn to protect yourself from toxic or aggressive types and walk away from what no longer serves you.

Cole C. 4/30/22 Cole C. 4/30/22

Destress with a Digital Detox

Have you ever been caught in the toxic cycle of mindless scrolling? Doing a Digital Detox is an extremely effective solution to this. It’s kind of like a reset button. Once you stop feeling the need to constantly update and post every second of your life to validate yourself or compare yourself to others you feel immense freedom. Social media is a drug, and a dopamine hit in itself.

Cole C. 3/24/22 Cole C. 3/24/22

Labels Don’t Define you

Labels do not define you. Whether you’re suffering from Social Anxiety Disorder, ADHD, Autism, Clinical Depression, Bipolar Disorder, BPD, Schizophrenia etc. It’s just a label, and does not reflect your worth as a person. People who are ignorant, judgmental or uneducated on what mental health is do not deserve a place in your life. Your circle should be supportive, open minded and accepting otherwise, find a new circle.

Cole C. 2/14/22 Cole C. 2/14/22

Discovering Self Love

It’s no secret, we live in a society which forces us to feel bad about ourselves. Numbers dictate everything- numbers on a scale, numbers of a dress size, number of likes or followers. Women are constantly pitted against one another

Cole C. 1/31/22 Cole C. 1/31/22

The Dangers of Cyberbullying

If you’ve heard of Dear Evan Hansen, the musical and movie you’ll have an idea of how tragic teenage depression and suicide is. Cyber bullying is a very real cause that triggers Depression, Anxiety and Suicide in teenagers and young adults alike.

Cole C. 8/28/21 Cole C. 8/28/21

Finding your Safe Space

Finding a safe space is the key to a happy. healthy and peaceful inner life. It could be a best friend who listens with full empathy and no judgment, a psychologist or psychiatrist you can trust, or even a place in nature or a yoga mat. The world can be a negative and draining place to be. At the end of the day it’s good to have a safe space to call your own, where you can be yourself.