Finding your Safe Space
Finding your Safe Space
When you are struggling not only mentally, but also physically or emotionally it an be challenging to find a safe place. It can feel at times that the world is out to get you in these trying times. Our government cannot be relied on for security, media is unreliable, even close friends or family who were once a source of strength can be toxic or trigger you. In the events you are actually feeling happy, there is a sense of guilt because you see so much pain and suffering in the world and among people around you, you wonder if you even deserve to be happy. There are times you believe, not everyone is genuinely happy for your success. It seems too many people are arguing and dragging each other down not only in Facebook, or other social media but also among peer groups. It is difficult to find a safe space to call your own as reality as we know it has been compromised.
It can be difficult to share mental health conditions or struggles to just any person simply because it can be used against you or you feel others may not understand and judge you. It can be a challenging process but I encourage you to find your safe space. If you feel like your group of friends are too narrow minded or will use your mental health issues against you, find a new circle you feel safe opening up to. The world is full of beautiful open minded and caring souls that are waiting to understand you and guide you on journey towards healing.
Most importantly, find your safe space within family, friend groups and work. Establish strong boundaries in all aspects of your life to protect your Inner peace. If what someone says makes you uncomfortable, speak your truth or exit the situation. You are worthy and deserving of love and respect and this is non negotiable. What you do with your time, resources or personal life are no one’s business but your own. You need not attach yourself too strongly to one person, job, group, or cause especially if it doesn’t align with your beliefs or values.
Remember that whoever brings you the most peace deserves the most time. It could be your best friend, your mom, a partner or a guidance counselor. Your time is your most valuable asset and it must be used wisely in a way that bring you the most peace and joy. Discover aspects of your life that give you comfort. It could be an old sport you loved a child, a time of day you spend talking a walk in the park or even a relaxing ritual like meditation or prayer. Allow yourself to breathe, and to take up space.
There are three places in the world that must be taken care of the most. These places are your home: the Earth, your body and your mind. Make sure that your mind is always a beautiful place to be.
“Shame dies when a stories are told in a safe space.”
- Ann Voskamp
Namaste